Golden shower

i might say some controversial things now, but it happens, so first of all from my point of view who says that the penis or the vagina is the sex organ, they are wrong, is the brain, fuck the mind and the body will follow. Seccond i noticed that alot of people are kinda setting the ground rules in sex at the beginning, or they should, because after some time passes, alot of them are more reserved in opening sexually with their partners, it's like i really would like something kinky and hardcore, but i can't tell her/him because she/he is not into it..and all those dark intense desires you just bury them deep inside of you, or some are just looking for them somewhere else when you could just communicate with your partner...again communication problems. And third i have a friend, she is a girl, and she told me that her boyfriend stopped fucking her hard and kinky..because now he has feelings for her, and he can't fuck her like a slut anymore. And it's kinda a problem when you can't compartmentalize that you can be a gentleman, and show her love, and respect and care in public and every day when you are together, and fuck her like a little fucktoy in private.